Yesterday was a wonderful day for my family, we welcomed another little girl into our family. My sister had her 2nd daughter around 8am. She is healthy and happy and she couldnt be more blessed.
I am proud to say that I am an auntie and a mommy, but this leaves me wondering if what I say I want is what I really want.
I have been going back and forth of whether or not to have another child. Kaiya is 2 and if we were to have another she would be 3 by the time the baby is born. We have finally gotten Kaiya potty trained to the point where it is diapers only at night and she is a total mommies girl. How do I go from one loving (terrible) 2 year old to 2 under the age of 3, work full time and everything else that I do.
I started off saying I never wanted kids, then I met my husband and what was meant to be was meant to be and we have 1, I rack my brain at the fact how rough that pregnancy was one me and the time that was spent in bed with morning sickness and everything else... Do I really have what it takes to have another one?
Only time will tell, for now, I will bask in me Auntie sense and see what life brings me.
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Friday, April 19, 2013
Birthdays
Today is Cody's 23rd birthday. I cant beleive it, we were talking last night and he stated that when I say that I sound like his mom.Not that its a bad thing, we love you Kera.
I met Cody when he was 19 almost 20. The first thing I said when he told me how old he was was "thats my brothers age". Now we can laugh at it but before it was shock to me. I love my husband but to my surprise I didnt know that that day would have changed my life. I am 2 years older then him and at times it can be a challenge, but that is what I signed up for.
I can only hope that he has a wonderful and amazing birthday and I love him dearly. I cant wait to spend 23 more birthdays with him and hopefully many many more.
Yay for getting older!
Jessica
I met Cody when he was 19 almost 20. The first thing I said when he told me how old he was was "thats my brothers age". Now we can laugh at it but before it was shock to me. I love my husband but to my surprise I didnt know that that day would have changed my life. I am 2 years older then him and at times it can be a challenge, but that is what I signed up for.
I can only hope that he has a wonderful and amazing birthday and I love him dearly. I cant wait to spend 23 more birthdays with him and hopefully many many more.
Yay for getting older!
Jessica
Monday, April 15, 2013
Frustrations at Work
As I sit here and read over my e-mails at work, I have this one person who works for one of our clients and who just so happened to work where I work now, I cant help but wonder how people get off talking to others the way she does.... Well let me back up here and start from the beginning..
So I started working as a temp last July at a survey company (I absolutely love my job), it was only supposed to be for 4-6 weeks, that turned in to 8 weeks and upon me being here for 3 weeks I was asked if I would perhaps like to stay on full time if it could be arranged. I went home and thought upon it and talked with my husband on it and decided that if the offer was right I would love to stay and we could do so many more things with the dual income.... Well the girl who I was temping for made it clear that I was just a temp and so on so forth, so did the girl who I could absolutely do with out on a daily basis. Well 10 weeks later the girl decided she could "finally" come back to work. The arrangement I had made was that once she took the settlement offer to leave that I would come back... It took roughly 8 business days for this to be worked out.... Well lord and behold both girls are friends, go figure.
The first girl who used to work here hired the new girl who, well lets just say didn't tell the truth about her being pregnant and what not to the owner, was working for not even 6 full months before she took maternity leave and in I came as a temp. Which is was I fully intended on being until I was approached with an offer I couldn't have refused.
Ever since the day her friend left it has been a nightmare... everything has turned from being her fault to somehow being mine and she is trying to deliberately get me in trouble with my boss and lets just say she has a very terse tongue that is going to ultimately get her into trouble. I have received e-mails monthly about my inadequacy of doing my job and being unprofessional to reply to her demeaning e-mails. Well after the first 10 of them our boss's had a sit down and it didn't end well for her. She had a un-paid day off to think about her attitude and could return with an apology and to not let it happen again... Well the apology e-mail was more of a blame it on her boyfriend and her "personal" issues... Blah Blah Blah...
Here we go into round 2 of the countless demeaning e-mails and now slamming other people we do business for and using her knowledge gained in our office to slam our customers and make her company seem so much better... well with attitudes like that, your company made a HUGE mistake in hiring you (personally saying). If I ever dared to talk to a client/customer the way she talks to just me, I would be fired no questions asked. I don't know what I have done besides take her friends job, which was given to me, I did not make the decision to let someone go I was simply doing my job and apparently it was better then the job she had been doing, apparently that has made her blood boil so bad but I am over it. I want to write her the most horrible e-mail and send everything to her boss and say look what she is saying and how she is saying it. I am ready to take a personal day at work and go home and de-frustrate before I call over and have a little talk myself with her boss and out her for all her B.S... Not to mention countless times I have saved her so called "ass" with thing she forgot or ordered doubly.
As some point I can understand that you may feel like you have "domain" over such a positions or company but if you no longer work there and have no intentions on returning why do you care and put so much effort into making someone look bad when they have done nothing wrong? I have had talks with my boss over this and he handled it the first time and I am certain he will handle it again. I don't want to get people fired or in trouble but when you work for a company and you are nobody important there then you shouldn't be doing this, you make that company look horrible and you just are plain ugly your self.
A word to the wise, the welfare line will get one person longer in the near future and it wont be me.
So I started working as a temp last July at a survey company (I absolutely love my job), it was only supposed to be for 4-6 weeks, that turned in to 8 weeks and upon me being here for 3 weeks I was asked if I would perhaps like to stay on full time if it could be arranged. I went home and thought upon it and talked with my husband on it and decided that if the offer was right I would love to stay and we could do so many more things with the dual income.... Well the girl who I was temping for made it clear that I was just a temp and so on so forth, so did the girl who I could absolutely do with out on a daily basis. Well 10 weeks later the girl decided she could "finally" come back to work. The arrangement I had made was that once she took the settlement offer to leave that I would come back... It took roughly 8 business days for this to be worked out.... Well lord and behold both girls are friends, go figure.
The first girl who used to work here hired the new girl who, well lets just say didn't tell the truth about her being pregnant and what not to the owner, was working for not even 6 full months before she took maternity leave and in I came as a temp. Which is was I fully intended on being until I was approached with an offer I couldn't have refused.
Ever since the day her friend left it has been a nightmare... everything has turned from being her fault to somehow being mine and she is trying to deliberately get me in trouble with my boss and lets just say she has a very terse tongue that is going to ultimately get her into trouble. I have received e-mails monthly about my inadequacy of doing my job and being unprofessional to reply to her demeaning e-mails. Well after the first 10 of them our boss's had a sit down and it didn't end well for her. She had a un-paid day off to think about her attitude and could return with an apology and to not let it happen again... Well the apology e-mail was more of a blame it on her boyfriend and her "personal" issues... Blah Blah Blah...
Here we go into round 2 of the countless demeaning e-mails and now slamming other people we do business for and using her knowledge gained in our office to slam our customers and make her company seem so much better... well with attitudes like that, your company made a HUGE mistake in hiring you (personally saying). If I ever dared to talk to a client/customer the way she talks to just me, I would be fired no questions asked. I don't know what I have done besides take her friends job, which was given to me, I did not make the decision to let someone go I was simply doing my job and apparently it was better then the job she had been doing, apparently that has made her blood boil so bad but I am over it. I want to write her the most horrible e-mail and send everything to her boss and say look what she is saying and how she is saying it. I am ready to take a personal day at work and go home and de-frustrate before I call over and have a little talk myself with her boss and out her for all her B.S... Not to mention countless times I have saved her so called "ass" with thing she forgot or ordered doubly.
As some point I can understand that you may feel like you have "domain" over such a positions or company but if you no longer work there and have no intentions on returning why do you care and put so much effort into making someone look bad when they have done nothing wrong? I have had talks with my boss over this and he handled it the first time and I am certain he will handle it again. I don't want to get people fired or in trouble but when you work for a company and you are nobody important there then you shouldn't be doing this, you make that company look horrible and you just are plain ugly your self.
A word to the wise, the welfare line will get one person longer in the near future and it wont be me.
Thursday, April 11, 2013
Quotes
Today has to be one of those days where I was meant to be at home sick, its 78 degrees outside and I am stuck in an office dealing with not so nice "customers"... All I have to say is if the company was not happy with my work ethic or me, then I wouldnt have replaced someone who was already here...
Today I think I am going to post some of my favorite quotes- most of which a customer we work with has under their signature block on their e-mail. Its always nice to see them.
Enjoy
“Knowing what's right doesn't mean much unless you do what's right.” ― Theodore Roosevelt
Faith has to do with things that are not seen and hope with things that are not at hand.
Thomas Aquinas
Say what you will, 'tis better to be left than never to have been loved.
William Congreve If you have one true friend you have more than your share.
Thomas Fuller
If government were a product, selling it would be illegal.
P. J. O'Rourke
Who so loves believes the impossible.
Elizabeth Barrett Browning
“Life is a fight, but not everyone’s a fighter. Otherwise, bullies would be an endangered species.” –Andrew Vachss
“When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless.” – Chris Colfer
Today I think I am going to post some of my favorite quotes- most of which a customer we work with has under their signature block on their e-mail. Its always nice to see them.
Enjoy
“Knowing what's right doesn't mean much unless you do what's right.” ― Theodore Roosevelt
Faith has to do with things that are not seen and hope with things that are not at hand.
Thomas Aquinas
Say what you will, 'tis better to be left than never to have been loved.
William Congreve If you have one true friend you have more than your share.
Thomas Fuller
If government were a product, selling it would be illegal.
P. J. O'Rourke
Who so loves believes the impossible.
Elizabeth Barrett Browning
“Life is a fight, but not everyone’s a fighter. Otherwise, bullies would be an endangered species.” –Andrew Vachss
“When people hurt you over and over, think of them like sand paper. They may scratch and hurt you a bit, but in the end, you end up polished and they end up useless.” – Chris Colfer
Thursday, March 28, 2013
Easter Fun
I truly love the holidays, big or small, they are all each fun and unique in their own way. Even if its the special foods that we make on those certain holidays or in this case the Easter Egg Hunt. This year Kaiya will actually be old enough to understand how to find the eggs and that each one will have a special surprise just for her. I am thrilled to spend those special moments with my wonderful child (even though she a brat 90% of the time).
I have racked my brain for weeks on how to make our own special Easter traditions and what to put in her Easter basket. I have come up with the wonderful combination of the things that she loves and only a little candy.... I have an Easter basket surprise I would love to do but I am too scared that Ellie (the dog) will eat the "rabbit droppings" before Kaiya can follow them to her basket and left over carrots from the bunny.
Kaiya has been especially spoiled this Easter, she has gotten "early" Easter gifts from all of our extended family, between shopping spree's and boxes full of goodies she is a happy little girl. Though this makes it more difficult for us to pick and chose what to get her we know what she has gotten and what she would like more/want of.
Dinner will be amazing, even though our "original" plans have been changed we wont let that damper our moods. I cant wait to make our yummy food and spend a full day with my family. I am truly blessed between the life that I have chosen and the decision that I have made. Work is amazing and I am truly blessed to have found such a wonderful company to work for, I will be here until they close there doors or until we are no longer in Virginia. My wonderful/crazy husband, we have our ups and downs but love can defeat all odds. Last but not least Kaiya and Ellie, my two wonderful, crazy kids that both drive me crazy, but I couldn't live with out them.
As a child I never really thought how much work it is for the "fantasy characters" that surround the holidays. Now as a mom I see that it is difficult and the traditions they she will remember for ever and they will be the same each year. I have to say that I do not do the very exact same things that my parents did for us or the Cody's parents did for him, but we try and combine all of our traditions and change/make new ones for our special family.
Happy Easter to all and I hope the Easter Bunny brings lots of spring to you!
I have racked my brain for weeks on how to make our own special Easter traditions and what to put in her Easter basket. I have come up with the wonderful combination of the things that she loves and only a little candy.... I have an Easter basket surprise I would love to do but I am too scared that Ellie (the dog) will eat the "rabbit droppings" before Kaiya can follow them to her basket and left over carrots from the bunny.
Kaiya has been especially spoiled this Easter, she has gotten "early" Easter gifts from all of our extended family, between shopping spree's and boxes full of goodies she is a happy little girl. Though this makes it more difficult for us to pick and chose what to get her we know what she has gotten and what she would like more/want of.
Dinner will be amazing, even though our "original" plans have been changed we wont let that damper our moods. I cant wait to make our yummy food and spend a full day with my family. I am truly blessed between the life that I have chosen and the decision that I have made. Work is amazing and I am truly blessed to have found such a wonderful company to work for, I will be here until they close there doors or until we are no longer in Virginia. My wonderful/crazy husband, we have our ups and downs but love can defeat all odds. Last but not least Kaiya and Ellie, my two wonderful, crazy kids that both drive me crazy, but I couldn't live with out them.
As a child I never really thought how much work it is for the "fantasy characters" that surround the holidays. Now as a mom I see that it is difficult and the traditions they she will remember for ever and they will be the same each year. I have to say that I do not do the very exact same things that my parents did for us or the Cody's parents did for him, but we try and combine all of our traditions and change/make new ones for our special family.
Happy Easter to all and I hope the Easter Bunny brings lots of spring to you!
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Friends at a Distance
How close is too close for friends? We have been asking our selves that the past few days, its not that we don't enjoy friends and having people over, but is living 3 buildings down too close?
Here is the situation:
We have some good friends that are going to be moving literally right next door. Now we like to hang out with them and have family dinners and what not, however we still like to keep our friends at a safe distance. We do not like it when people expectantly drop in or come over for every little thing or when they fight. Now we have known them for almost a year (a long time for military people) and they have had their ups and downs and we have our own opinions on everything. The issue at hand is that we have what they don't so when they want to say use the computer and internet they ask to come over, well in tow is the WHOLE family including kids, one is the same age as Kaiya and then they have an infant. Well when they come over its fine and dandy for the first 2 hours but when we get into hours 4 and 5 and the kids are getting at each other, my house is turned upside down and I am fully irritated and cleaned out of juice and food and my trash is full, lets just say that is enough for me.Not to mention that they only have 1 vehicle and the husbands both work at the same place in the same unit and everything, so "ideally" for them carpooling would be great so she can have the car and do what ever. "Ideally" for us, that isnt going to be happening. We have our own life outside of friends and I am not wasting more money on things that other people need to do, go and take care of because they wanted to "carpool".
Now our issue is how do explain/tell them that we are great full for them to be our friends, yet we would still like the distance that we had when they lived 25 mins away. We have gone over various scenarios and all of them sound totally selfish and rude and these are the people who will take it that way and feel like we hate them and abandoned them in their time of need (which we totally havent, and we have been more then supportive financially and friendly in their "times" of need).
I know it sounds a little like we dont like them, we do, we just like our space and distance from them... Now the question comes as to what do we do and how do we do it with out being extremely rude.
Here is the situation:
We have some good friends that are going to be moving literally right next door. Now we like to hang out with them and have family dinners and what not, however we still like to keep our friends at a safe distance. We do not like it when people expectantly drop in or come over for every little thing or when they fight. Now we have known them for almost a year (a long time for military people) and they have had their ups and downs and we have our own opinions on everything. The issue at hand is that we have what they don't so when they want to say use the computer and internet they ask to come over, well in tow is the WHOLE family including kids, one is the same age as Kaiya and then they have an infant. Well when they come over its fine and dandy for the first 2 hours but when we get into hours 4 and 5 and the kids are getting at each other, my house is turned upside down and I am fully irritated and cleaned out of juice and food and my trash is full, lets just say that is enough for me.Not to mention that they only have 1 vehicle and the husbands both work at the same place in the same unit and everything, so "ideally" for them carpooling would be great so she can have the car and do what ever. "Ideally" for us, that isnt going to be happening. We have our own life outside of friends and I am not wasting more money on things that other people need to do, go and take care of because they wanted to "carpool".
Now our issue is how do explain/tell them that we are great full for them to be our friends, yet we would still like the distance that we had when they lived 25 mins away. We have gone over various scenarios and all of them sound totally selfish and rude and these are the people who will take it that way and feel like we hate them and abandoned them in their time of need (which we totally havent, and we have been more then supportive financially and friendly in their "times" of need).
I know it sounds a little like we dont like them, we do, we just like our space and distance from them... Now the question comes as to what do we do and how do we do it with out being extremely rude.
Tuesday, March 12, 2013
Anniversary
Today marks 2 years that Cody and I have been married... sometimes it feels more like 10. However that being said we had a wonderful anniversary date on Saturday night. We are truly great full for our friends coming over and watching Kaiya.
We started off at the gun range, it is a good thing we were getting along that day, then we headed over the local Mexican Restaurant it was time for some overfilling good food and tequila filled margarita's. I dont drink often but when I do it will most certainly be a margarita on the rocks with sugar on the rim. One pushed me over the edge, Cody likes his with salt on the rim and he being the bigger drinker between us was perfectly fine.
We had a great time and it was a joy to celebrate 2 long years together and hopefully we can make it another 2 years.
Happy Anniversary my love!
We started off at the gun range, it is a good thing we were getting along that day, then we headed over the local Mexican Restaurant it was time for some overfilling good food and tequila filled margarita's. I dont drink often but when I do it will most certainly be a margarita on the rocks with sugar on the rim. One pushed me over the edge, Cody likes his with salt on the rim and he being the bigger drinker between us was perfectly fine.
We had a great time and it was a joy to celebrate 2 long years together and hopefully we can make it another 2 years.
Happy Anniversary my love!
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